'Mothers keep an eye'

All mothers out there working at home or at office. keep one eye open if not both and one ear closed so that what you hear causes less harm to your heart and mind.Dont let your conscience one day ask you "what a mother you are'.I wouldnt ask you to not believe in your children but not wholly.Gone are the days of your childhood when you followed your route of home-school-home or home-college-home.We grew up with certain ethics and principles and we do wish our children imbibe them and grow likewise.But our little babies are in a complete different era.In trying to keep pace with the fast growing and revolutionizing world.These little kids have little idea about family values(forget traditional) or cultures. Internet and mobiles are the two major culprits.Fixing dates and places of meeting at Malls,theatres and parentless homes.Mainly flats because its a better option with no eyes and ears following you except the watchman who sticks on to his job by just' watching'.Atmaram is a watchman of a beautiful flat.He has seen people of all walks of life.Sometimes being witness to some events breaks his heart.Every week he sees a little girl with a cute face and an innocent smile walking into the lift holding on to a young man who could be double her age and then back after an hour or two. Yes she is darshini,merely 15 years of age and now in the tenth std.Its quite long since her love-story began, which blossomed through cinemas,malls and lunch and then to the apartment in which her lover stays alone as his parents live in dubai.Darshini has been taking precautions,she uses the i-pill and has had no problem so far.A child herself she begins to dream of marriage and children.After getting a good share of her overwhelming generosity ranjit her lover breaks up with her and the little miss Darshini has fallen into a deep depression and ultimately into the hands of councilers and phsycologists,who are trying all their best to lift her from the deep well she has put herself.Teenage sex is on the increase and dear parent you need to be aware.Yet in another story Lina and tina are sisters of 18 AND 13. Lina takes her younger sister while going for dates so that her Parents at home would not suspect.Tina is introduced to sandeep by Lina's boyfriend.They have enough time and friendship leads to sexual involvement.Parents would never suspect because both the sisters are together protecting each other,and frequent sms or missed calls to home do assure their safety.Time goes by and Lina the elder sister breaks-up with her lover but she is not able to stop her younger sister who is just 13 from the path she had lead her to.Now so deeply involved was tina that she didnt have the slightest idea of where it would land her or where it would lead her to.Here the elder sister is at the brim of a break down.The day she gets out of it her younger sister would be a long way into the relation.

Here are two more stories of girls who have been preys and victims of their own self-destruction paths.Swapna is a not-so-bad looking daughter of a very rich NRI.She lives in a big house where each bedroom in itself would seem like another house with seperate balconys and bathrooms(which is not a novice in kerela).She lives with her mother and sister and have more than two house-maids with specific jobs.Her mother, who is mostly sick is taken to the doctor and looked after by the other sister.There is a big dining room with a beautiful glass dining table,but it comes in use only when the NRI father returns on leave,as friends and familiys have frequent visits.Otherwise food is served in the respective bed-rooms.'Swapna has a college-mate who comes to her home on every saturday and leaves on monday.He helps her to study,clean her wardrobe, room and bathroom too,because servants were never allowed in for cleaning,he made her look beautiful and loved her very much.Not a soul in the house knew about this weekly visitor.Things were never misplaced,her belief in him increased day-by-day and this lovely meeting went on for a while.Money was never a problem with a bank account and an ATM card.One fine day she found all her gold was missing. There was a hue-and-cry and the servants called for questioning.Mr visitor helped her in lodging an FIR.The servants and some neighbours were questioned but no clue was found.On questioning the visitor more than once the truth came to light.He had accessibility to every part of the room and the girl and he made most out of it.The shocking part of the story was that even after she knew he was the thief she couldnt manage her life without him.It took many sittings of councilings to get her back to normalcy and avert her mind from this guy but she has still not come to terms with herself.

Another case was of yamuna who is of a middle-class-moderate family and has a job.Her childhood friend and would-be-husband manish was a known fact to both the houses except from her father who is an heart patient.She had no reasons to doubt his loyalty.She loved him so much that she discontinued her studies and got into a job because she didnt want to dominate him in education.One day manish seemed in great distress as his bike had met with an accident and he was caught in a police case.He didnt have a job and couldnt afford money from his home. Yamuna saw him geuinely suffering andreached out her helping hand,and helped until all her gold was given off gradually and she was left with none.One day he wished for physical cajoleness,of which she was reluctant and blatantly refused.Then she began to notice some changes in him which led her to follow him to the truth.He had just cooked up a story to get money out of her for drugs and alcohol.One could very well imagine how devastated yamuna would be in.The trauma of being cheated by the most trusted person left her mind paralysed and it would take many more years for her to come out of this deep depression.

Dear parent dont spy your child but keep an eye.Dont let them damage themselves physically and mentally.Try to be close to your child and know them better than anybody else.Teach them the traditional cultures and values of life.Give them time and a happy home.